The Holidays aren’t even a distant past and already I’m hearing the murmurings of “I’m no longer in the driver’s seat my business is running away with me”, or some version of “How will I ever get some balance in my life”.
Whether you’re a small business owner or you’re working for someone else work seems to want more of our time than ever. How can we keep up with our “always-on” work and still find time to do what we need to do at home, spend time with family, enjoy some kind of social life and just plain relax? At risk are our personal relationships, our sanity and even our life.
Today’s article starts out with a reminder of what you can do to regain balance in your life. Are you surprised that I’m adding some mindsets you might want to consider that can really impact your ability to regain balance in your life?
The butterfly counts not months but moments, and has time enough.
So You Want to Regain Balance in Your Life? What to DO – Who to BE
These days almost all of us have so many demands placed on our time and energy, life can feel like a three-ring circus. And if you’re not up there on the tightrope, you’re down on the ground in the midst of tigers and lions, in charge of keeping a couple of dozen plates spinning in air.
Balance requires holding steady with the many responsibilities that are a normal and everyday part of life: home, family, friends and work, while at the same time recognizing and fulfilling personal needs and wants. Regaining and maintaining balance when life can be so complicated and demanding is both an outside and inside job.
What to DO:
Reaching outside yourself gives meaning. Think about how you reach outside yourself for sharing and giving meaning to your life. Spend quality time with family and friends. Give back to life through your time, energy and experience. Contributing to the larger world provides connection and purpose. .
Inside—Only you can take care of yourself. Consider how well you take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. Eat healthfully and exercise regularly. Set aside personal, quiet time for yourself
Who to BE:
To take action on regaining your balance in life it’s not enough to know what you need to do, what will move you forward requires a potential shift in your mindset – who you need to be. Consider the following:
Change the “always-on-the-job” Attitude
Attitude goes a long way in determining how much balance you can regain and maintain in your life. No matter how much you love your work, no matter how big a part of your life it is, ultimately you need to be able to “turn it off” and spend some time not working. This is hard for a lot of people, because their work has become such an important part of their identity. Many feel that this is admirable (a value not necessarily shared in many other cultures), especially when you accomplish great things in your work, but an always-on-the-job attitude can be harmful in the long run. At least, the people around you will get tired of coming in second to your work, causing damage to your relationships and eventually leaving you without them. What’s more, it might even reduce your effectiveness in your work — both the mind and body need a break from thinking about and doing the same things all the time to recharge and keep coming up with fresh ideas.
Make space for “Enough”:
Many of us strive constantly for more. There’s so much to know, so much to experience, so much to accomplish! It’s like we’re insatiable which often leaves us unaware that our minds are actually full. Trying to continue doing even more at that point we lose our life balance. So what’s the answer?
We need to become more aware of when to say “enough. Learning what our capacity is for information, accomplishments and stuff and to be able to say enough is a key to regaining and maintaining balance in our lives.
How do we create this space in our lives that will allow us to live a life of being enough. We can start with the little things – rather than filling our time working on our lap top, while waiting for the oil in our car to be changed we can just sit and be present.
We can create space when we walk to do that errand rather than drive, when we clean off our desk, when we cancel a subscription to a magazine we never read
We can create space when we pretend that we are enough, just the way we are.
Here is the secret that underlies all life balance: You are enough.
This week pay attention to how you can realize the natural flow of life and experience your enough-ness. It can be your first step to understand what it means to live a balanced life.